Defining Class and Other Ladylike Terms

Thursday, 19 January 2017

Many people often think that having wealth is equal to having class or being classy. This is not one in the same. To understand what is classy we must first clarify what it means to have class. It's simply a shortened for the word classify. In other words, humans tend to classify or sort things. Class refers to a group, set or kind of people with the same social status, attributes, behaviors, best of it's kind etc.

 People usually don't make the obvious connection. So what does it mean to be classy? Webster's dictionary definition of classy 
:  having or showing class: such as
a :  elegant, stylish (classy clientele) (classy hotel)b :  having or reflecting high standards of personal behavior (classy guy) (classy gesture)c :  admirably skillful and graceful (classy outfielder) For those such as myself that speak plain English, it means that to be classy is to be the category or group in which people are sorted into; that have the attributes mentioned above. Those who, but not limited to in my opinion, have elegance, style, high standards of personal behavior, are skillful and posses grace. I would also throw in there poise, kindness, confidence, righteousness and knowledgeable. But that's just me. What may be classy to me, may not be the same for others. It all comes to a matter of opinion and what you feel is right for you. The one thing I must say though, is that I believe that all of these attributes go hand in hand. You can't have or be one without the other. That being said, don't stress out about perfecting everything at the same time! Take it slow, all will come in due time. Remember, practice makes perfect. Plus, you have a lifetime to become the woman of your dreams, one day at a time.  As my research has progressed I've noticed many of these kinds of words being thrown around and often said. So I decided to go ahead and give you a definition for each. Just click on the word to be redirected to its definition. In order to make it a bit easier to fully understand what I mean by when I use them too. As time goes on, I may add more to the list. As you know it's common for dictionaries to have various examples and definitions for a single word. I guess choose wisely the meaning of each word as best fits your mentality.(In no particular order:)

How To Wear A Double Breasted Coat | T E D B A K E R L O N D O N

Monday, 16 January 2017

When it comes to a woman's wardrobe, you can't live without the essentials. They were once popular in between the 1930's-the 50's and again through the 80's. This means they are frequently in style. I'm talking about double-breasted coats! In today's post we are back to the basics. I'll walk you through on how to choose and wear one. 

 Although it's often hard to find in the US, double breasted attire can be found easily through most european clothing brands, such as Ted Baker London. As of late, in fact one of my most favourite designer brands. The term double-breasted refers to a coat or jacket with wide, overlapping front flaps and two parallel columns of buttons or snaps.

 How does one go about choosing the perfect double breasted coat? There are several things to consider such as shape, cut, size, material, price etc. So take your time when on the hunt. Let me share with you a few tips I learned when I purchased mine. 

1. Choose A Style That Will Flatter Your Shape
 They say anyone under 5'4 is considered petite, but we have to also consider our build. Thicker figures look best in straight and leaner cuts. Double-breasted coats won't be the most flattering, but it can be accomplished! Simply choose one with a wider belt, this will flatter the thicker waist. 

 Waist isn't everything, you must also consider your stature. Taller woman can definitely pull off an ankle length coat, contrast; shorter woman look best in coats that don't surpass mid shin. Best shop for your climate when it comes to length and material.

 For petite figures, such as myself, accentuating the waist is a must! Choose a coat that has some sort of decorative feature that highlights your waist. I decided to go with an a-line style, with a bit of flare below my waist. It hugs my silhouette and makes me look taller. It's classy, flirty and very feminine. 

2. How Much To Spend
 Decide whether you're buying this coat for everyday use or as a statement piece for your wardrobe. In both cases you want to buy the best you can afford. With that in mind, ensure that you're buying good quality, that will last. To be honest, my everyday coat is actually a burgundy feathered parka from Urban Behaviour. So, I bought this one as a statement piece, but that would also be versatile with the rest of my wardrobe. This is not an everyday coat for me, so I went for a designer brand. Therefore, it was on the expensive side of the spectrum.

3. What Colour To Choose
 No matter the year, every new season comes with new trending colours! You might be very tempted to give into one of these bold trends, but you need to think about this as an investment. Ask yourself, will it stand the test of time? Especially if you're investing more than the average on a coat. If you could afford it, you can always buy two coats, one classic and one bold for a statement piece. If you can't that's okay too! You just have to decide whether you want a classic or trendy look, consider its versatility with your wardrobe. 

4. Shopping
 Before committing to a purchase make sure it fits your needs, and how you like coats to be worne. What I mean by this is to research brands, materials, and fabrics before going shopping. This way you know what you are looking for and can adjust if you need to when you visit a store. Ask yourself, can you fit it over your layers? Not pull under the arms? Has sleeves that fall below your wrist bone? Won't be uncomfortable and ride up when sitting?

5. Comfort & Confidence
 Let me tell you I felt like a million bucks wearing this lovely coat! I never felt more feminine and sophisticated. Confidence is something that you can always build. Everyone is different and not everything is for everyone. Choose a coat that you feel comfortable in and confident wearing. When you look good, you feel good. 

 Now that you know how to choose your double-breasted coat, I leave you with a few more of my favorites from this little photoshoot on how I wore my double breasted coat. A small break down of my outfit. Best of luck on your search for the perfect coat!  Videos are coming soon, in the meantime though, go ahead and follow my blog. I promise you won't regret it! ♡
Ted Baker London | SHANIOpulent Orient embroidered sweater  
 Ted Baker London | MANSII Checked midi skirt
 Aldo | Olilidia Handbag $50 // Keria Pointy Toe Pumps $90
Gerry Weber | Faux Fur Tie Up Collar 

 p.s ♡ Don't feel that you have to spend this kind of money on an outfit, buy according to your budget. All you need is to make sure it flatters you and makes you feel confident and beautiful. ♡

5 Simple Ways to Look and Feel Put Together

Thursday, 12 January 2017

If you're new to the blog check out my first few introduction post to find put more about my mission, and remember to subscribe for more content.

 We are finally getting into the fun stuff! In today's post my goal is to talk about why our appearance is important. As woman we are constantly being compared to ''unrealistic'' beauty standards, which cause us in turn to be competing with one another. This foments jealousy, envy, hatred, low self-esteem and other unkind attitudes. In order to break that mentally, we have to do a few things. Number one, love yourself, inside and out. Two, accept that woman come in all shapes and sizes, having different strengths and coming from different adversities...all beautiful. Three, there really is a different between girl and woman. Girls compete with each other. Woman empower one another. Maturity is part of your personal growth and will only come with time. 

These three point are pretty self explanatory but I will go into them in detail individually in other posts afterwards at a later time. Let take it slow and begin with number one, loving yourself. You might be asking yourself how can I learn to love myself or I'm pretty sure I already do? Some of us are moms, busy as ever with our day to day responsibilities. No time to do makeup when kids need diaper changes and food am I right? Others are young adults who are longing to find themselves, filled with insecurities, and the list continues all while being bombarded with images of the perfect woman at every turn. ''How can I ever look like her,'' is something I often think to myself when I see a beautiful woman.'' How is she so put together?'' I then excuse myself with '' I bet she isn't even married or has any kids.'' Pushing the blame towards my family for my lack of time or desire and even motivation to look nice. "Who is ever going to check out a mom" or "because I'm married I don't have to impress anymore" are all terrible and unacceptable excuses. 

 Although I still have those days, slowly but surely my way of thinking has changed. So here is my advice to you. If you want want to start to have a different perception of yourself. Change doesn't happen overnight, although the decision to change does. If you want a change in your life you have to be the change you want to see. I often give the example of a mom because I am one and it's something that I myself have struggled with. Looking good and well put together when life with toddlers is such a mess seems close to an impossible task. This isn't true, it is possible. You want to be put together? Well, wake up 10 minutes earlier and make time to put yourself together for the day that is ahead of you. Are the kids in bed? You can spare 5 minutes to give yourself a mini manicure and touch up your hands. Leave a few things ready for the following day.

 Keep yourself on the priority list, you don't have to be number one but you need to be on the list. You have to find and make time for yourself. Let yourself know you love yourself. Do what makes you feel good and feel beautiful. This will help you build self-esteem and  impart that sense of self esteem into the house hold. Learn to treat yourself, read that book you've been meaning to, eat that last piece of cake, go for a walk and have a well deserved break. Doing so will give you the ability to be a little selfish (which is okay), and gain self respect. Casting that to everyone around you. 

Everyone loves a confident woman. A happy mommy equals happy family and that happiness starts within yourself. You can't take of another if you don't taken care of yourself first. So that means no more frumpiness allowed. You may be tired and you have all the right to be, but you don't have to look tired. Physical beauty isn't everything but you have to start somewhere. Because when you look good you feel good. Simple as that.

Here I'll leave you with my 5 simple go to ways to begin improving your outer beauty and looking more put together  on days where you feel far from it!

#1. Makeup! I’m a momma bear of three. I don’t sleep. So I like to conceal my under eye circles. Doing this brightens up my face and makes me look less tired. Concealer always does the trick, you can even add a bit of three point highlighting to your face to brighten up even more!

Add a bit of eyeliner if too. You’d be surprised what a little black line can do for your spirits and confidence. Even a simple look can go a long way and change your mood.
You can do as much as your feeling up to with your makeup. Sometimes I like to add a bit of mascara, just to feel like I tried today.

#2. Instead of point out and settling on your flaws, focus on everything you do like about yourself. We all have something beautiful to be proud of.

#3. It might sound cheesy but a smile truly is the best accessory! When you smile, you tell your brain you’re happy, and thus actually become happier.

#4. Even smelling good, can change your view about yourself. How could something ugly smell so nice, that’s right, because you're not ugly! Convince yourself of what you already know.

#5. Sometimes you just need a good pampering by making sure to take care of yourself. Manicures definitely do miracles for my mood and I’m sure they’ll work for you too.

Even though it shouldn't be this way, people really do judge and treat you by the way you look like first. Sometimes natural and "great" personality isn't enough. Appearances are just as important for yourself own self-esteem as well as having others treat you seriously and with respect. Once you learn to love every inch of yourself, it will radiate from you and enhance your beauty and self confidence. Like I said previously, when you look good, you feel good.

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Friday, 6 January 2017

 Most of the first posts are and will be introducing and getting certain thoughts out of the way. But now we're approaching getting into the fun stuff! There are areas or categories of what I want to cover with this blog. A few of them being topics related to beauty, fashion, diy's, and wellness. In more detail, I want to also cover topics that have to do with personal growth and lifestyle. As I plan my posts and topics, I realize that there is so much that I myself will learn and that excites me tremendously! I can't wait to continue my research and jump on this train with you. My goal is to not only provide written articles for you all, but also videos to reference to. Which a Youtube channel is also in the planning stages at the moment. If you like, click Beautiful You | The Art of Being a Lady in order to subscribe and be the first to see our new and coming content!
As times go by these categories might change or more might be added but I just want to share a few things I have in mind, withing these categories also lye topics of which I will be covering.

♡Wellness & Personal Growth
♡Beautiful You | The Art of Being a Lady Instructionals
♡Heart to Heart
♡Home & Family // Relationships

♡Tags & Favorites
and much more...

Let me know what you'd like to learn about or topics you'd like me to explore. Posting weekly articles for the beautiful you 

Then vs. Now, Those were the days...

Thursday, 5 January 2017

First and foremost I'd like to state that this blog is in no shape or form of an "authority" on how to be a lady. There are no rules that say you HAVE to do everything and be THIS type of woman I will be sharing with you throughout this blog. The goal of this blog is to help us become better woman in this world, because of the lack thereof nowadays.

This week, I took the time to ask woman and men I know such as friends, family and other piers to share with me what their ideal woman is, and what makes a woman a "woman" to them. This was actually very interesting. The answered varied more than what you get in a skittles packet. It shocked me what they had to say. It would be stereotypical of me to say that it came to no surprise men just described a woman's physique, but it is true. Not many actually describe woman  intellectually or in any other virtuous trait. This was obviously not what surprised me, but that many of the woman I asked also described their ideal woman through physical appearance. I thought at this point maybe I hadn't expressed my question correctly, so I rephrased it giving examples of what I meant or was looking to hear.

I asked them in detail to give me an example of a woman nowadays who symbolizes strength, truth, kindness, who was a proper role model, etc. The best I got was Lucille Ball and Elizabeth Montgomery. For those who don't know who they are, they were the main actresses who played in the popular 1940's and 1960's television shows I love Lucy and Bewitched. I thought this was interesting because there is such a big time gap between 1960 let say and 2017. That's almost 60 years difference! Has there been no other memorable or outstanding woman in between since? If so, then why can't anyone remember to mention them? Not only that, but if we are all about woman equal rights, feminism, woman independent, breaking the stereotypes that men can also be stay at home dads in the modern day etc. Then why is the perfect woman described as these old time television identities? What did these woman have that modern day woman don't?

Let me tell you, it gets worse... most of my piers and close friends gave me the most bizarre answers towards who were  woman they looked up to. Other than the typical "my mother" the Kardashians were mentioned several times, Scarlet Jo Hanson was another, along with the Jenner's' and Beyonce. There were no authors mentioned, or artists, no revolutionaries or historical woman.

To be honest, I at least expected to here Oprah's name thrown in there, but not even.  As you can see, traits and virtues of womanhood weren't even in the same game. Thus confirming what I had said in my previous post. Today's woman, care more about what's on their face than what's in her brain. And this is saddening. Woman constantly complain about how men and society belittle and objectify them, but we have lowered our standards ourselves and given the world the key to our oppression. If we respected ourselves, others would only be forced to respect us as well. And this is the problem that needs to get fixed. We need to raise our standards once again. Woman like Lucy or Samantha are no longer being raised. Those were the times where woman had manners, edict, morals, modesty, respect for themselves and what they were putting out there. Woman who have stood the test of time, proving that they are role models for today's girls. This needs to make a come back!

Share with me your ultimate role model. Whether she be an author, political figure, artists, etc. And don't forget to subscribe for more.

(I don't take credit for this photograph, I don't know who these woman are, it's a meme I found that is a great example of my point. For those of you who might say "what did that girl ever do to you, maybe she doesn't want to be shared like that." Well, maybe she shouldn't be posting pictures of herself in such an exposing manner on social media then.)

Beautiful You | The Art of Being a Lady

Tuesday, 3 January 2017

It's the beginning of the year, and I'm sure you all know someone that has written a sappy, insightful, quasi-inspired post. I have to say, now is a good a time as ever...

MMXVI was most definitely a year to remember. For me personally, it was a year of finding myself and figuring out what and who I wanted be. I'm a mother of three and a loving wife. It's been four wonderful years of learning and experiencing new things since. It's been four years of laughter, tears, and everything in between. At times I wished there was a manual to just instruct me on how to do things right the first time! But sadly, there is no such thing.

I'm caught between something interesting. I'm a twenty-four year old young adult, who has three children and a husband to care for, but also the spirit and desire of a young twenty-four year old. Wanting to do things young adults do, but at the same time be a responsible mature woman.

Thus began my search for something that would help me become a better woman, a better wife, a better mother. Most things I found in blogs or youtube channels were very much targeted to the thirty-five plus age group, and anything younger was,.. well too young! I had a hard time trying to relate to anything. For most, at twenty-four, one is usually still figuring out how to do laundry. Not only was the age non-applicable, but I couldn't find any content that would encompass everything I was looking for. I thought to myself, I can't be the only woman in the world to be looking for this type of information. Blogs were mostly on a single topic, such as elegance, or how to be a good housewife. But this wasn't was I needed. You can't care for others if you don't take care of yourself first and we can't teach what we don't know. Being a woman is much more than just something pretty to look at and housekeeping. I thought within myself, the days were woman had standards, modesty and beauty were long gone.

The 1940's housewife ideal is great, and there are certain things that still very much apply today. I also searched in men categories, which had surprisingly much more substantial content, kudos to them! How to be a "gentleman, standards of men, what makes a man." It seemed very clear to me that woman nowadays are more worried of what's on their face than what's in their brain. Or at least that's what "they" want us focusing on. It shouldn't be this way, what are we teaching our young girls then? Garbage, that's what.

In this blog, you'll travel with me on this journey through The Art of Being a Lady in 2017 and revive this long lost character building lifestyle. We'll cover everything from Style and Beauty to DIY's and Lifestyle, including wellness and personal growth.

In short, I decided to take it upon myself to create valuable content that is targeted to the woman who wants to better herself, who wants to grow in character, and beauty (inside and out.) Whether it be a better wife, sister, young adult or mother. We need to embrace womanhood and femininity, in order to become strong role models that our generations can look up to and follow. It all starts with us. Here's to MMXVII, a year of personal growth and honing it! Don't forget to subscribe for more of what's to come.

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